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I have just one question for you. Do you know that it is possible to be happy without having a girl in your life? Learn to love and accept yourself for who you are. A girl should not be your reason for being, she should only be a welcome addition to a life that is already full and complete.

>>10009
People always say that, but I don't really feel thats possible. I won't be happy with a career or money or whatever else if I'm alone. Without a family what is the point of life? A family is the only thing I can see myself living for. Without a gf/wife how will I ever have that? Some people can enjoy life without love but not me. And having the same fetishes isn't really a concern at all, just a bonus if it happens. I'd rather be with someone who loved me and was perfect for me in every way personality and beliefs wise than someone who just happened to share the same fetish as me. So I ask again, how rare is it to meet a woman with a pregnancy fetish at around my age (20) who is still a virgin (on purpose)?

>>10057

>>People always say that, but I don't really feel thats possible. I won't be happy with a career or money or whatever else if I'm alone.

Probably because it's true. Learn to survive on your own. Don't become dependent on other people to make you happy. If you can't be alone to the point where you're struggling mentally like this then that's a really bad sign.


>A family is the only thing I can see myself living for.

Get a hobby. If finding a family is the only thing you have to live for right now then you're in for a rough time. You're only 20. Go explore. Visit different places. Go somewhere new. Learn a new skill. IDK man just do anything.


>I'd rather be with someone who loved me and was perfect for me in every way personality and beliefs wise than someone who just happened to share the same fetish as me.

No one will ever be perfect for you. No one is ever an exact perfect match. You can get close, but "perfect" isn't something you should look for.
Settle for less.


>how rare is it to meet a woman with a pregnancy fetish at around my age (20) who is still a virgin (on purpose)?

Near impossible. Again, settle for less.
If you REALLY want to find a girl like that, then put it in your Tinder bio, or make an ad on craigslist or something.


You're only 20, you've got time to grow and learn. You're typing as if you're 45 and you've never been with a girl.
Who are you? What do you like about yourself? What are your favourite bands? What are your goals? What are your aspirations? What are you good at? What are you bad at?
Find out more about yourself and learn to appreciate yourself. No one can appreciate yourself for you.

The older you get the likelihood of finding a girlfriend that's a virgin becomes harder and harder, and if you want a 20 year old girlfriend that's a virgin, has a pregnancy fetish, and wants to date you, then you're going to be looking for a long while.

>>10058
I don't mean perfect as an individual, but 2 people can be "perfect" for eachother. You're right though, I'll likely never even meet a woman my age whose a virgin with how society is, it's pure suicide fuel to think that with my luck I'll probably end up alone with no career, family, or life ahead of me. Just because I'm "young" doesn't mean I have much of a chance, it was over for me the moment I was born. I'm naturally extremely unattractive as well as overweight, which ironically not even conventionally unattractive overweight girls will put up with. Every relationship I've been in has ended in failure. Thank you stranger for trying to help me, but I don't think anyone can, if I haven't an-hero-d after writing this I'm also a coward.

Your defeatist attitude might have something to do with your history of failed relationships. Not gonna lie, I find an "oh, poor me, what's the point in even trying" attitude WAY more unattractive than below-average physical features or obesity. If you feel like you legitimately cannot be happy on your own, then you're most likely clinically depressed and you should be getting help for that before seeking a relationship. I say that as someone who, after years of being held back by mental health issues, is finally on a combination of meds that works - that plus learned coping techniques really makes a difference.

I don't think it's actually that difficult to find girls who are into, or could get into, pregnancy kink. Your issue is that you also want someone who's a virgin - why, if you don't mind me asking? Are you a virgin? (If you're not, why hold women to a standard you don't hold yourself to? That's going to narrow your options a lot.)

If you'd be open to someone into fat fetishism, your weight could actually be considered a good point. It helps to remember that every body type is SOMEONE'S ideal.

Bottom line: you gotta stop feeling sorry for yourself. If you feel unappealing, do something about it. Learn skills, get hobbies, make yourself interesting. You have plenty of time. I didn't even have my first relationship until my mid-twenties.

I, at one point, was homeless, suffering from crippling depression, and had active plans to kill myself.

I decided to start doing SOMETHING. Even if it was considered outside of the norm, being creative in some way HAD to be better than just rotting. I was desprate for a relationship, but I decided step one was to hit a point that I felt I deserved to be in one, or at least try to. Start moving forward and such.

I started writing pregnancy and birth erotica, dark stuff that I personally found attractive. Put my heart into it, made it the best I could. Ended up joining a group of like-minded individuals. Met my wife in that group. Got married at 26, and we're still deeply in love with each other.

My advice? Get over whatever hangup has you fixated on "she has to be a virgin." We're in the modern age, demanding someone be a virgin or they're not dateable exudes immense creepiness. I think the best thing is to find someone you want to be around first, let that blossom into however close you two end up being. And if it's love, move forward from there. Don't obsess about being in a relationship, it's why the boomers are all so miserable. Share yourself, and people who are interested in that will respond.

>>10064

>Your issue is that you also want someone who's a virgin - why, if you don't mind me asking? Are you a virgin? (If you're not, why hold women to a standard you don't hold yourself to?

>>10065

>Get over whatever hangup has you fixated on "she has to be a virgin.

I think the reason he is hung up on finding a girl who is a virgin is simply that the more partners a woman has, the lower her ability to pair-bond with one man is. This is partially due to the fact that her dopamine receptors will become desensitized to the hormones that allow her to truly connect with one single individual, and partially due to her hypergamy of always wanting more.

If she dated alpha chad before, even if she's a 4 or a 5, she's going to get it into her head that she can attract a 9 or a 10 again, even if chad was just getting with her for some easy action. This contributes to her always thinking she can do better than a man she deems as lower value since she'll always be thinking of the 9 or 10 she had in the past. This makes it extremely difficult for her to pair-bond and be loyal to any one man since she's constantly wanting more.

>>10069

Well, that's a gross reading of women and how they think. I know it's hard to believe, but women are humans too. If you not being a virgin doesn't mean you're a disloyal sex fiend, why is that the case for women? And if a woman is forming a relationship with you, being afraid she'll leave you for an alpha Chad the whole time means that you're probably not going to treat her well, and she'll leave, not for another man, but because you clearly think very little of her.

… You know what? This is pointless. I already know why you would think women would behave in such a cruel, selfish, entirely sexually motivated way, and it's because you barely see women as human beings. Y'all want to know why you haven't met anyone yet? That's why. Nothing I say here is gonna change that, don't know why I bothered.

>>10064
Of course I am a virgin, in fact sex has always sort of repulsed me, especially thinking about not being with a virgin, I'd never be able to see her as innocent after knowing she'd been with anyone else. I think virginity (both genders) belongs to the person you will spend your life with, not you. Not for any religious reason particularly, just because I think that's the way it should be. It's unfortunate that not many else are willing to stay pure, even disgusting that people like incels will actively seek out sex just so they aren't virgins. And I don't really have time, shits going crazy all of a sudden so who knows how much longer our civilization as we know it will survive. Also the older you get the less likely you are to find people who have spared themselves, much less those you are compatible with. Additionally, my self esteem issues are deep rooted and cannot just be fixed by getting fit again, I could have the body of a Norse warrior and still be disgusted by my face. I'm sorry for even making this thread and asking these questions as I realize my mental issues will likely prevent me from ever having a chance. Hopefully I can at least get fit before things get too out of hand, maybe I won't have kids but I'll at least be able to handle myself.

>>10069
It's more of a tradition based thing, but yes this is true, however I think men should be held to the same standard. You don't get to have a virgin wife if you slept around.

>>10070
Maybe for that guy but for me I have severe trust issues. I've been cheated on multiple times and its really screwed me up. You can call me out for being a wignat or whatever but I just can't trust anyone whose slept with anyone else, especially when I tell them I want to wait and they don't. I don't see women as lesser than me but I do see them as more likely to break promises

>>10070

You know, for someone who has a wife and has led me to think that you're male, your post sounds like it was written by a woman. It just reeks of being written by a karen demanding to see the manager.

this thread is amazing.

it's like a greatest hit album of the fucking mind viruses the internet propagates.

we just need like, one ancap, and it'd be perfect.

Can we lock this thread please? It's all ad hominem attacks and chauvinism now, something this site doesn't need.

>>You're typing as if you're 45 and you've never been with a girl.

My ears are burning…..